Help For The Virgin Bottom

You have waited for your chance to finally take your first cock up your ass, but you have your apprehensions. Don’t worry, we all have been there. Everyone is a little nervous their first time. Your first time bottoming is going to be the basis for how you bottom for the rest of your life. All it takes is for the first experience to go bad, for you to decide to never bottom again. The good news is, that there are a number of things that you can do to make the experience more enjoyable. Once you get used to it, you may just get hooked on it so much that you become a “bottom slut” like me!

Various “professional” bottoms have their own secrets to having a great time bottoming, but one thing they all have in common is that it lies in three simple acts: Diet, Douche & Loosen Up. Here is the best piece of advice you will ever receive in your gay life.

DIET
Take control of your diet, people. What goes in will definitely come out! Not only will your body look its best, but it’s also going to give you an edge when it comes maintaining your insides. Nobody wants a dirty bottom – diet, lifestyle, and exercise will always help keep it as hygienic as possible.

DO Drink Lots of Liquids "preferably water" - Great for hydration, which makes your insides softer and easier to come out. Plus it helps with digestion.

DO Eat Lots of Fiber - Stock up on fiber throughout the day, especially morning and afternoon. Fiber acts like a magnet for everything in your stomach and makes it easily digested.

DO take Immodium Multi-Symptom - After your first douching the morning of the fucking, take two of these pills. They will help bind anything left inside you, after the cleaning and help release any left-over water, plus it has an anti-gas property to them.

DON’T take laxatives - Under ANY circumstances! They create an unwanted release during penetration – usually at the most inopportune moment!

DON’T eat up to 12 hours before you have sex - If you plan on bottoming that night. This gives plenty of time for your body to digest, since it takes a minimum of 12 hours for food to digest. I myself, give 24 hours just to be sure.

DOUCHE
Cleanliness, by far, is the most important thing. It takes more than just showering, soaping, and rinsing to get nice and “porn star” clean. So how do you get used to doing the anal douching and do a thorough cleaning for a whole night of sex?

Practice, practice, practice. I've done it for so many years, I know exactly what mood my gut is in. I clean nominally for fucking almost every day, and if you're into extended sessions, say more than 12 hours, you may have to take a break and do a touch up. You need to know how your body reacts to what you eat. Some things are digested quickly, some are not. I've found that eating lightly on play days is helpful, but not eating at all really doesn't help unless you're going for a full day/night fuck–fest.

Here's my routine. I have an 18" rubber nozzle "Fort Troff makes a nice one" that goes all the way up for two rounds. I'll let water in, progressively letting more go in further each time. The long nozzle is very helpful for me to get the 2nd ring opened so it's not preventing things from coming out. Water temp is important too. Luke warm is best for most. Too hot or too cold and your ass may not cooperate. After I've done a round standing up with the 18" nozzle, I'll kneel or lay down in the tub, relax and douche some more with the 18". It's important to relax your gut while your cleaning just as it is while you're being fucked or fisted. When you've gotten most of the chunky, dark stuff out, you're at the end of round one. Give it a few minutes, like 15-20. You'll probably shit out what seems like a gallon or so of water. When that's done and your gut's comfy again, you're ready for round two. Round two is similar to round one, but shouldn't take nearly as long. It depends. If you're still getting a lot of chucks, you need to keep going until that's just water. Towards the end of this, turn the water pressure down and try pushing some water up your butt, taking the hose out and holding it. Then add more water and hold it. Maybe 3 times or so. As your gut relaxes, it will let the water flow up gently to the upper areas. Then let it out. You may want to rub your gut gently, but firmly in a clockwise rotation starting near the belly button and to the right, keep pressure on up an go just under your rib cage and then down the other side. That's the path of your large intestine and you can help it expel the water. When you've done this a few times and the water's coming out clear, round two is over.

Now, take a break. Watch TV, sit at the computer, whatever, but give your ass 30 minutes or so to settle down. You may have to hit the can a few times, but this is normal. By now you should just be seeing mostly liquid. When you're gut's calmed down, you're ready for round 3. Water pressure should not be hard for this. This should be the final clean out. Just gently let the water in as far as it wants to go and let it out. Repeat "as the shampoo bottle says". When the water's clean, you "should" be done and ready to go for several hours. I often find that after a good clean out like this, I'll still get on the toilet and see stuff coming out my butt. With a good clean out, though, it's pure white. It's what I call ass cum. It's the intestinal lubricant your ass makes naturally to make it easier for the shit to come out. Only now, it's the best sex lube known to man kind. I've been fucked with just it before.

Douching Tip: Don’t over douche. The consequence is the loss of our natural lubrication we can provide. Without it, the lube product we use will have no help, though you can squirt some lubes WAY up inside you! ;-)

Good luck. This works for me. I've tried MANY other methods. There are lots of other tips and tricks. Just remember making cleaning out like foreplay. Enjoy it too. Some guys even use poppers when they clean out or long thin dildos. I have a long double–headed dildo that I can take almost all the way in by this point if I am properly cleaned out. If you're enjoying your clean–out, your ass will open up and cooperate.

LOOSEN UP
DON’T BE SO TENSE!
The very first thing you have to do is learn to relax. If you are not comfortable with the person "or people" you are with, then you are DEFINITELY not ready to bottom. Before you even head out to play though there is one thing you can do; loosen up. Get out the lube and play with your hole for a while. If you aren’t relaxed it’s going to be much more difficult since the lube ONLY reacts to a loose and slippery crevice. This may take a few minutes, but once you’re loose enough, the pain will be gone and you may actually find you will REALLY enjoy yourself. Get yourself a dildo and play with it for a while to help loosen yourself up. I take a thick one in the shower with me, while douching, to help loosen me up just before a major evening of heavy play or before a video shoot. Make sure the dildo is equal in size to an average man’s cock and not a finger, unless you are planning on getting fucked by a really small endowed man.

TRUST IS PARAMOUNT!
The next thing you are going to have to do is learn to trust your partner"s". If there is no trust, you will be more tense. Don’t be afraid to let him/them know that he/they are going too fast or too hard or are hitting at a bad angle. If they are caring enough for your feelings, they will understand and adjust. If they don’t, then it is time to find another top!

USE PLENTY OF LUBE!
Lube isn’t just for the beginning of sex. Keep lubing it up if you need; it will always make it less painful. The more wet, the better. Some guys prefer to use water-based lubricants. They’re smooth and slick, not sticky and messy like silicone or oil-based lubes. Because they’re water-soluble, skin and mucous membranes will absorb them, creating longer lasting lubrication and an easier clean up. I use plenty of silicone lube "my favorite!", when I’m getting pounded, because there are times when it just gets worn off too quickly. Again, don’t be afraid to ask for lube!

DON’T RUSH THINGS!
Take your time and make sure the top knows that you are not that experienced, if at all. Make sure he doesn’t ram it in before it’s loosened up enough for YOU. This will cause internal/external bleeding, plus rips and tears that can take quite some time to heal, let alone permanent damage. The best way for “newbies” to start is for the top to lay on their back and the bottom to position themselves sitting on top on the top’s cock. That way the bottom can control the situation; penetration depth and speed. Once you are used to it, and are ready to take the next step, then you can decide if you want to change positions.

FINAL NOTES:
Keep Your Bottom Kit Stocked!
Sex can happen at any moment if you are lucky. Could be the mechanic at the local repair shop wants to go in the bathroom for a quickie, or maybe the drunk straight guy, at the local watering hole that just got dumped, wants to take out his aggression on an available hole…either way its essential you have your Traveling Bottom Kit!

--Travel Size Lube
--Condoms "Just in case"
--Toothbrush/Toothpaste & Breath Mints
--Baby Wipes "Unscented"
--Douche Bulb for Emergency Re-Clean "I like the ones that Fort Troff has"

Being preventive about bottom maintenance will help you worry less about something embarrassing happening during or after sex.

Your Hole Will Close!

Your asshole is always going to go back to its normal size after sex, regardless of the size cock you take! This means you will have to loosen it up time and time again, before sex. The trick is building up a tolerance each time you get ready to play. Buy a dildo and practice with it at least once or twice a week. The more practice you give yourself, the less pain you will have down the road, so to speak.